Wednesday, October 23, 2013

By Shehbaz Ahmed....


MY WISH AND NATURE's :-

Our life is very simple since we are spending it simple or some one is making our life simple . Yes that is our family who are the hope of our life we live for them ,,must be the one of our family is very special for us . 

We always thought that we will do alot for our family we will give every happiness to our parents and family but some times nature does not permits us to do as we thought .  i am the eldest one of my family and my father is my favourite personality of this world .

 He teach me at every part of life how to walk in this world but now he becomes very sick . i am what is just because of my beloved father he done alot for me and my life .
 The greatest wish of life is to make perform hajj to my mOm and my father from my own earning .this is the greatest wish of my life , i planned nothing in my life to do , i always wana be a good son of my parents but the NATURE is not making me doing that as i thought it seems that every thing is become scattering . i realized recently that every thing happens as ALLAH wants not us .

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

By Hunaina Israr...



IF U R GooD At SomethinG
Never do it for Free…..

Strange but true….everyone is playing their own part and everyone needs to eat...

If u are doing for Ur own sake so definitely u doing it free and enjoying Ur work for Ur sake...

But if u are good at something than there is  no need to do it free for others because its ur passion u spend several hours to make perfect for urself…might be possible that others are good too on there own passion and at some stage u want their help and they want urs..So it’s an easy simple and easy way of exchanging their work and ideas...

Right now some people are thinking that I am talking on a materialistic side but yes it’s a RULE OF LIFE EVEY ONE IS DEPENDENT ON OTHER…

There is a small but true example:  Teacher teaches student because they are getting their salaries in spite of the reality that it’s their passion and they are enjoying their work but they want salary to fulfill their wants….

If we see it as social cause so we can do anything for anyone without expecting anything but still how long…?Can you only live for others? Obviously not…
We are here to help others but it’s not our obligation or force responsibility... if we help others so we also want something in return...or it’s just a social cause…..

 

Saturday, October 19, 2013

By Maryum Arif....



                   SCIENCE VS ARTS

 

As soon as we step into the dreaded phase of our education where we must choose which subjects we want to pursue for our higher studies, arts and science are pretty much the basic options to choose from and these practically shape our academic future.
I remember when I passed the eighth grade, I was content because I had been able to achieve the target score required to be able to choose science for my matriculation; I was ecstatic, my interest in science being secondary. It wasn’t just me, all my class fellows worked hard so that they could be promoted to the ‘science’ section of grade nine. The ones who made the merit joined the science group while others were left with the insular option of taking arts.
That was the standard then, but students now make their subject choices according to their future vocations.
The point is that the students of first year would never choose their subjects out of their own personal interests but were part of a race of being tagged as an intelligent student. The ones studying science were always considered exceptionally bright students while others were not. Such a mind-set has prevaled in our society, both in general and for students in particular.
It is not the students’ fault because they develop these attitudes according to what they observe and are told. There are a few exceptions (some private institutes) that groom students into discovering and pursuing their own interests, but majority of our schools fail to do so.
The reasons could be multifarious; maybe the teachers fail to instil in students an understanding of the importance of various subjects or maybe it’s the confusing merit-based system that barricades students from making the right choices.
Another reason is that in our part of the world, people are considered ‘successful’ if only they are doctors and engineers – a stereotype we are known well for. These are the top two ‘respectable’ professions for high achievers.
It is a widely accepted belief that getting an education in science makes one intelligent and enables one to acquire a degree which is not only valued by society but also leads to a highly-paid occupation. No wonder, nowadays people give considerable importance to the degree one holds even while choosing a life partner – as if an academic degree totally guarantees a happy marital life!
The problem is that in pursuit of certain superficial goals, we tend to undermine our personal choices. It starts happening from the very beginning when we take the first step towards choosing an academic path. Initially, it is the social pressure that plays its role and later, it develops into a tunnel vision effectIn this whole perplexity, individuals totally ignore the fact that not all minds are meant to work well in the fields of science.
People do wonders even in the areas of arts and humanities which in itself hold a huge treasure chest of knowledge. Science education opens doors in the fields of medicine, architecture, engineering, healthcare, technology and quantitative analysis, while arts and humanities offer a wide range of career prospects in social and civil service, academia, media, fine arts, tourism, linguistics and other similar areas. Nowadays, it all depends on what field you want to major in and potentially pursue as a career option.
We must rid ourselves of the notion that science is the only domain for intellectuals. Such an outlook is the main reason why students are so unwilling to consider taking arts subjects in the first place. Children need to be encouraged to pursue their education according to their interests; this will ensure that they are happy with the career choice they have made. It can also help lower the “ratta” (rote learning) or cram-culture, since cramming is mostly practised when one is unable to grasp a concept and forcefully stuffs the mind with those alienated theories that are not understandable altogether.
As a society, we should realise that to pursue a career in one’s area of choice is something that eventually leads to success in professional life. Work doesn’t become a burden then, and life becomes more enjoyable. Even businesses today make sure that professional goals of their employees are in line with company’s goals, which means that firms want employees to take pleasure in their work while they fulfil their duties. They realise that promoting such a culture is crucial to boost creativity, leading to productivity and revenues. The same idea works in all professions.
Science and arts/humanities both have their own significances and should be given their due importance to keep a balance in societies. Where the former focuses on developing technical skills, the latter enhances soft skills among individuals. None can take the place of the other and both will continue to contribute positively towards progression of economies. It’s high time we abandon the science-dominated mentality which has been restricting our minds to focus on a larger and more fulfilling perspective.
“At the end of the day, art and science are united by one logic and one impulse—both are attempts to understand what it is to be human and the world around us.”
– Keith Tyson



Friday, October 18, 2013

By Fatima Absar....




Live where you fear to live…..
 

“I wanted to do this but what, what people would think about it ….” The most repeated and ever torchering words, come across to my ears very often. Wiat!! Give it a thought. Would these people will help you to cope up with the frustration and depression?? Or they will help you out when you will regret the time you have lost to taken that step or doing what you wanted to do?? Well we know it much better!! 

To be very honest people just want to command you. They wanted to rule. They wanted to be superior. If you wanted to be happy and satisfied, never let anyone giving you orders and treat you like puppets. People love to do this. 

We should be fully aware of ourselves. It is the only tool which let you to be strong. We need to be clear which emotions are harmful and which are helpful; then cultivate those that are conducive to peace of mind. Often, due to a lack of knowledge, we accept anger and hatred as natural parts of our minds. This is an example of ignorance being the source of our problems. To reduce our destructive emotions we strengthen the positive ones; such emotional hygiene can contribute to a healthier life. 

Earl Nightingale has wit fully said: “Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” Every moment should be enjoyed fully. Never shy to express yourself. You are beautiful with what you have. You are made it like this. 


There are much more things to cry on. Never let yourself be the reason behind that. Never be regretful. Enjoy whatever you are blessed with and endure happily what has been the part of that joy. As it is said: “joy never come alone.” But its fine. 

Do what you want to do, as you want to do. Life never gives the moments back. At least you won’t regret that you haven’t tried.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” -Mark Twain 

What you must be careful about is that other people has also the right to live freely. Never forget that!!

Thursday, October 17, 2013

By Ali Tareen....


Son of Tareen
 

Pronunciation of my Name is a Big Problem for Many People. Some pronounce it “ALI “Kareem, Some call it “ALI TEHREEN” and for some people I am “ALI TEHREEM. People Hardly Get My Name right, But if they guess right, they Try to link me with “SHOKAT TAREEN” (the ex finance Minister) the only Tareen they Know. But I always decline it with a smile. 


But the dilemma I have been experiencing from last 6 month is very much humorous. My FB ID is open for every 1. Since I am a Trainer, radio jockey and a social worker so, I have to connect with my Listeners, participants and Other People through social Media.

Getting FB request and twitter followers are not a problem. 

But getting it with a specific district with a same question is really a twist. 


I remember before Election 2013, I have got a friend Request from Lodhrah, with lots of complains and problems of their district, he requested me to solve those Problems. After reading his Message, I was thinking, it is true that I am a social worker, but the problem he was talking about, out of my Job, and how can I solve their area’s Problems, the area I never visited.
But, when I got more then 30 request from the same area, I asked them, how they know me, why are you people sending me friend requests.

But the reply I have got was very hilarious and shocking 

They said, are you the son of Tareen G?
Obviously my Father’s Name is tareen too, but which Tareen they were talking about? (Jahangir Khan Tareen) a a famous and riches Politician who has recently joined Pakistan tehreek e Insaf (PTI) and who has contested general Election from Lodhrah district. Can any 1 tell them that having a same Name does not mean having same powers..!

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

By Jaweria Siddiqui...


MY EID MY CHOICE 

Oh ! the bakra eid is here Eid Mubarak to all …… I love the days before eid. They are real fun having mad nights with animals and weird days with hairs a mess, kajal just a smear and in the name of dress a comfortable tees and jeans. 

I am like this on every eid but from past two or three years I got scolded, didn’t get a permission to go out. It started with the neighbors asking questions you are still out? You really love animals haan (sarcastically) and the limit was do you know that you are not looking cool you are a girl you should not be here bla bla bla...... 

I wanted to answer them but my parenting stops me I mean why on earth people judge others when my family is o.k with what I am doing then who the hell are you guys to tell me what should I be doing and what not? It irritates me why can’t people just mind their own business? It’s like they are unable to digest without judging someone. 

If I am a girl or in other words if I am not a boy it doesn’t mean that I can’t enjoy my life as I want to. I often get labeled as bold and over oh yes! I am bold however at least I don’t show off what I am not, I am bold in expressing my mind, I am bold to admit that I am a freak, I am bold to accept that I am girl and I will live as I want, I am bold to wear what comforts me although I never wore a revealing dress but again it’s my choice if someone is wearing it it’s up to them I am not going to decide the jannah or the hell for them. May be a girl appearing very fashionable prays five time a day. 

Stop judging others start thinking different rather positively. In last, only four words with a treasure hidden: “live and let live”.
By Najia Niazi.....


HOW TO CHOOSE HAPPINESS

My last blog was on “HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE “...but how to choose it, it’s not as easy as it seems I will tell you the 5 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and you'll feel much, much happier. The first and the much common thing you have to give up is…

1. COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things people, situations and events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It's not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking. 


2 BE YOURSELF
Stop trying so hard to be something that you're not just to make others like you. It doesn't work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you're not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly. Don’t let others to control your life, live your life on your own demands not on others. 


3. MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST
I know, I know. This one's hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening. But, you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for the past that you are now dreaming about was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present
in everything you do and enjoy life. After all, life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now. 


4 GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS.
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them; they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them; to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people's expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need and eventually, they forget about themselves. You have one life this one right now you must live it, own it, and especially don't let other people's opinions distract you from your path. 


5. GIVE UP THE DISEASE OF JEALOUSY
Stop getting jealous to others it just hurt you not the person who is being a victim of your jealousy. Just sit and think for a while that does he or she have that wealth, that you have n they didn’t. Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you.

We hold on too many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering and instead of letting them all go and allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to them.
We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

Sunday, October 13, 2013

By Urooj Riaz.....

 

    Friends as Blessing.....
Seriously sometimes life give you so much surprise that you can’t even imagine but feels so good on that. Same had happened with me. As I left my school I never miss anything but a friend of mine. She was not my best friend but a friend who cares for me a lot.  We never talked much as she had her own friend and I was having mine. But she used to care for me a lot I don’t know why. Well school life is school life full of memories.

 Now in university I was having a friend same like her. She used to care a lot for me, use to ask me about breakfast, lunch dinner and all. She wanted me to be happy always. But due to some reason she left university she is not with me now but her care is even now with me. She use to text me and ask all that how was my day, did I took my lunch, breakfast, dinner etc.

But by the grace of ALLAH pak I got my school friend again. It was unbelievable for me. When I went for my admission in fashion design she was there too. After school we never meet, we never talked even we don’t had contact numbers. We meet suddenly there and were very glad to see each other after very long time. I asked her where she lives. She told and I was shocked because she was my neighbor, she lived next to my society and we never meet in last 4 years. Actually life can’t stop at any cost so we should keep going with it but memories always save in our mind 

We are too much busy in our work that we cannot identify blessing around us. She is just like a blessing for me. I use to think of her always but never tried to find her. We never give values to them who cares for us but later on we use to miss them, when we see someone doing the same thing.  Friends are the basic needs of life when they were with us we misjudge them but when they gone then we realize their values.
By Nisma Chauhan.....




Little things matter – a tale of an overseas Pakistani

People usually think I whine a lot about Pakistan and the situation surrounding the country. Ignore the good and only write about the ill-happenings.

To a certain extent I might just agree to their statement but the little period of time I have been able to spend in this country of mine, I have encountered a ‘zillion’ things which makes me frustrated, makes me wants to throw a tantrum and run away.

We have all heard of the cliché that ‘little things matter’ and these little things are the ones which are being mishandled in this beautiful land of mine.

Note: I have been using ‘mine’ to make people realize that no matter how much I would write about the negatives, I would always be connected to it, simply because this is where I belong and this is where I want to be.

Well recently I travelled back to my middle-eastern country. I had to take off from university and make a visit due to some personal commitments. Since this was my first time ever travelling alone I was a little nervous.

I have been the pampered child in the family, so the thought of doing everything on my own made me tensed. For a while, all I kept thinking was ‘what if I get into another plane and land in some other alien country’ (I know that would have never happened but it was hard convincing my heart for it).

Anyway, the time came and I was all by myself at the airport. My luggage was just one bag but heavy enough for a single average built individual to carry. Hence, at every conveyer belt I politely asked the security staff to lift it up for me. BUT to my astonishment they refused. I mean seriously refused ‘mein nahi karsakta baji!’
So I had to spot for a gentleman and ask for their assistance.

In my mind I had already started cursing them and thought of the ‘whys’.
Why would the security guard not help a young girl with her luggage? Why are they so inhumane to bluntly refuse even without apologizing? Maybe they could have reasoned themselves or perhaps asked someone else to do it?

With all this in mind, I landed at the Muscat International Airport (I repeat Muscat not Muskan). Since the flight only takes about 50 minutes from Karachi to Muscat, the process of thinking remained. I assumed to be getting the same treatment from the security staff at Muscat too.

This time I didn’t bother asking any one but struggled myself with the luggage. Before I could manage to put it on the belt, a tall fair man, dressed in a qandoora (the Arab wear) gently took away the bag and put it on the belt and even off the belt. I smiled at him with relief and happiness and he smiled back and went on with his work.

Right there I realized why I loved this place, why I felt home arriving at its land. Why every time the thought of arriving here brought smile to my face and unfortunately also why Pakistan being home was still far away from it.

I still don’t understand, what in the world would have gone wrong if the security staff at my native land just had helped me with the luggage or any other young/old/sick individual.

I don’t know what it could have done to him, but to me, it injected a negative impression of my country. It made me think of another country’s men better than mine. It made me praise someone else than my own people.

Ever thought of it this way, if I was a foreigner visiting Pakistan alone, what image would I have had taken back home of the people of Pakistan?

‘Because little things matter and they always will.’